I'm reading this book "Sex, God" by Rob Bell. It's a fascinating book, and I'm reading this one chapter at the moment called "worth dying for". It's really touching my heart because I see so much of what he's talking about, in so much of the world. It's really heart-breaking. I watch young girls and friends struggle with this, and I watch boys not live up to how they are called to act as men.

Here are some excerpts from what I'm talking about:

(women)
"Some girls only know how to relate to men by making a series of transactions. They want to be wanted, and the man wants, well, the man wants what lots of men want. So they trade. Essentially they strike a deal with men, time and time again.

Some women learn at an early age how to negotiate. They need to be loved, to be validated, to be worth something, and they discover that by giving a little of themselves to a boy, they get what they need in return. ...Sex becomes a search, and so they go from relationship to relationship, looking for what they already have. (In Christ)

You don't need a man by your side to validate you as a woman. You already are loved and valued. You're good enough exactly as you are. You have limitless worth and value. If you embrace this truth, it will affect every area of life, especially your relationship with men."

(men)
"Perhaps this is why the text (specific scripture in the bible he's referencing) talks about the man dying for the woman. This can be terrifying for a man. Comminting to a woman for life is going ot demand courage, fidelity, and strength he may not know he has. This is why some men take such pride in their sexual conquests. They're desperately running from their fear that they don't have what it takes to aly down their lives for a woman. Sleeping with lots of women gives them the feeling of being a man without actually having to be one."

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